Ways to Move on From Cheating

Cheating is something almost everyone experiences. If you're in a relationship and your man has been less than faithful, here are some tips on how to move forward from it.

1. Decide
This is the first step in your process of moving forward. You have to decide if you still want to be with your man or if it's time to move on from the relationship. Take a look at your relationship and decide if you really can move on from his cheating ways. No one is perfect and that is no excuse for what he has done. But people do make mistakes and sometimes don't realize what they have until it's gone. So make a choice and if you still want to be with him, then give yourself some time to heal.

2. Time
You know the saying, "time heals all wounds", well it's very true. Giving yourself space from him can really help you deal with your feelings. It may also give him a chance to sit there and think about his actions. If you jump right back into the relationship, it will make him think that it maybe ok to do it again.

3. Write it Down
If you're having thoughts that you need to get out, but don't want to express them to him? Start a journal, or write a song. This will give you a chance to pour your emotions out in a calm manner. It's a very therapeutic way of dealing with the many emotions that are running through you.

4. Lean on Friends
Find a friend that you know you can trust. Let them in and tell them what's going on. I have a great friend that helps me through all my break ups, and she will sit up till the middle of the night helping me through them. It's also a great way for you to express your hurt without calling your guy. Also, she might see things in your relationship, that you might have been completely blind to.

5. Don't Compare 
This might be the hardest one of all. Do not compare yourself to her. There is a reason your man fell in love with you. You are the person he wants to be with. Chances are, you are making her out to be this wonderful person that you can never be. But how think about what it says about her character to cheat. If you want to move on from this, let her go. This is between you and your man.

What are some of your tips for going through a break up?

The New Bandeau

If you're like me and you feel like you have a chest like a 12 year old boy, then this bra is perfect for you. I love wearing bandeaus, but I constantly have a problem with them falling down and I feel like I'm always pulling them up (not attractive). This bra is fun and sexy at the same time. You can wear it  with a ton of different outfits. Best part, they are affordable. The brand is called Honeydew and you can find it at Nordstroms for around $12.
What is your favorite bra?

6 Ways To Rock Any Interview

1. Dress For The Job
Alright ladies, put your night club dress away. When your going for an interview, you basically want to dress like your going to a family event. First impressions go a very long way and if your dressed like your going to the bar right after your interview, no one will take you seriously. Make sure you cover up. Not to say you have to dress like a nun, but they also won't be impressed with the new set of girls you just bought.

2. Be Punctual 
When my school was prepping us for the real world, they made sure to drill this into our heads. I have always been a very punctual person, but everyone is different. I learned that it's all a game you have to play (and I HATE games). But you want to make sure your there for your interview exactly 10 minutes early. That way it shows you are capable of being on time, but doesn't make you look desperate.

3. Be Positive
This is key. No one wants a negative Nancy walking around the office all day. Show them how friendly you are and how well you can get along with others. They may ask you some questions, like why you left your old job. The answer might be that it was because your boss had multiple personality disorder (yes, that happened to me) and thrown things at your head, but don't say that! Say something that will make you look like a hard worker. Like, you are looking for a job that will provide you with more hours or you want a job that challenges you more.

4. Bring Your Resume
I learned this the hard way. I forgot to bring in a hard copy for an interview once. The person interviewing didn't have time prior to the interview didn't have time to print out the one I emailed her. I had to sit there and go over everything that should have been right in front of her. She had to take notes the whole time and seemed very frustrated. This showed her that I wasn't prepared and maybe irresponsible. Bringing in a resume will show that your detail oriented and professional. Just remember to proof read it,

5. Don't Ask About The Salary
I've always heard mixed opinions this one. But then I watched an interview with a guy of what his top points are when hiring someone. He said a huge no-no is when people ask how much the pay is. I understand that that is the main reason for getting a job, but you want to show the people hiring you that it's not all about the money, that you're passionate about the work field you're in. If you get a call back or a second interview, that would be the time to ask.

6. Be Prepared
I have been to many interviews when the first thing they ask me is, "What do you know about our company". Responding with something like, "I just found your ad on Craigslist" probably isn't the right way to go. Employers want a staff that fully believe in their product/company. Go on their website prior to your interview and do some research. See what makes them stand out. This might actually make you more excited about working there as well.

What are some of your job interview tips?

My Amazing Blow Dry Secret

It's hard for me to find a hair product that actually works miracles. Through a lot of trial and error, I finally found a product that I am amazed with. I was using the Organix products for a while, don't get me wrong, they are very good, especially the Keratin shampoo. But one product made me throw out all my other shampoos and totally switch over. I finally switched over to My Amazing Blow Dry Secret for a number of reasons. The biggest reason is because this shampoo and conditioner is sulfate and paraben free. The importance in this is that studies have shown that both sulfate and paraben can cause cancer. Other reasons for using this is that my hair has never felt softer because one of the ingredients is coconut oil (which by now you should know, I love). It's also color safe for your hair and repairs it! After using this, your hair dries quickly and it's easy to style. You can find it on Amazon for a pretty good deal (shampoo $20, conditioner $13). Try it out and enjoy your shiny, soft hair.

Important Vitamins for a Healthy You

It's hard enough to remember brushing your teeth in the morning, let alone taking vitamins. Well to make it a bit easier, put your daily vitamins next to your toothbrush. Problem solved! You will be amazed at how beneficial taking vitamins really is. Does reducing wrinkles, boosting energy, hair growth, and better skin sound good to you? Well these are just a few things the doctor ordered.

1. Chia Seeds

Chia seeds are a great source of healthy omega-3. It's a great way to loose weight because they reduce cravings and helps you feel fuller faster. Also, they are rich in protein and boosts energy. It's super easy to add to your food, you can even add it to just water. Talk about easy.

2. Magnesium 

Magnesium is a great way to help the mind and body. The main thing I like about this is that it helps with anxiety and depression. Magnesium helps keep adrenal hormones under control. It's also a detoxifier and pushes out toxins like heavy metals, pesticides, and other chemicals in the environment.

3. Vitamin D

This might be the most obvious one, but a lot of people have no idea they have a vitamin D deficiency. Vitamin D is so important to our bodies and if your stuck in an office all day, you might be needing a little pick-me-up. It helps boost our immune systems, prevents cancer, treats depression, and improves your hair.

4. Zinc

Zinc is great for multiple beauty improvements. If you're worried about acne, then this is the supplement you should take. Many people who have acne have a zinc deficiency and once they start taking zinc, their skin visibly improves. Other symptoms zinc treats are, dry skin, hair loss, low sex drive, hangnails, and more!

5. Miracle 2000

                                            

This is one that I take everyday. It is rich with vitamins and minerals. It is a liquid form, which is great compared to pill form because liquid vitamins absorb 98% more than when it's in pill form. The downside is that, yes it has most the vitamins you need, but does not have the amount you should be taking daily. That's why I still take the pills. But besides that it's a great thing to add to your daily routine.

What are your favorite vitamins?

How to NOT Loose Yourself in a Relationship

Lets face it, when you're in a new (or even long term) relationship, everything is wonderful and surprising. But before you know it, you get so sucked into the relationship that you start to forget about the most important thing, YOU! I'm guilty of this as well and I'm sure many other people are too. If you haven't experienced this then you're supernatural. My boyfriend is in a band so he is out of town a lot. When he left, I found myself going crazy about what he's doing, who he is with, etc. The first step is to realize the problem (which I have just discovered) and then fix it! Not only will you benefit from time for yourself, but your relationship will as well. It's good to miss each other.

1. You have Girlfriends, So Use Them!
This is probably the best idea. Surrounding yourself with other people will help you keep you're mind on other things. You're girlfriends are there to make you smile and laugh, so let them! Whether it's staying home and watching The Notebook or going out to the local dive bar to grab a beer, you will end up having a great time. Do a girls weekend away. I just spent the weekend with my girlfriends going wine tasting, sitting by the river playing music, and enjoying great meals. It was so refreshing going to a new town and just spending time with them. I had never laughed so hard and felt more free.

2. Take A Class
Whether it's a cooking class, art class, yoga class, give it a chance. I started taking an Arial Yoga class, which gives you a great workout and makes you feel sexy at the same time (DISCLAIMER: you will be incredibly sore the next few days, but totally worth it). Also, try checking out your local community college. They have a bunch of awesome classes you can take for fun.

3. Geocaching 
I know many of you might be thinking, what the heck is that? But its a wonderful adventure. Think of it as a worldwide outdoor scavenger hunt. There are hidden treasures all around the world and most likely even in your neighborhood. You can download the app for FREE on iTunes. You search specific GPS coordinates and then try to find the hidden container.

4. Visit Family
Nothing is better than spending the day with your family. Since I live with my boyfriend and all my family lives hours away, it's sometimes difficult to do so. But recently, I had the day off work, so I drove a couple hours to visit my grandmother in Monterey. We spent the day at the beach and walking around Fisherman's Wharf (also eating some of the best clam chowder you will ever have!). And of course, nothing beats grandma's homemade cookies.

5. Pick Up Extra Shifts at Work
I know, I know. This doesn't seem like the BEST time, but it does keep you busy. But for those of you who love your jobs, this is perfect for you. Look at it this way, while it keeps you occupied and can also be making some extra cash. That's what I call a double win!

6. Read
When you get consumed in a good book, you don't always notice the world around you. This is perfect for YOU time. Spend the morning outside reading a great book and dive into a different world. I just finished The Fault in Our Stars. I got so wrapped up in the booked that I read it in day. You can even go to your local coffee shop, grab your favorite drink, and get lost in a good book.

7. Start a Blog
I've always loved blogging and spending hours on Tumblr. There's nothing better than getting your thought out. For me, making myself feel exposed is really freeing and soothing. Blog about whatever comes to mind! You can make it your personal diary or write about something you feel passionate about. You might be surprised how much fun it is and how many people might feel the same way as you.

It may be easier to do baby steps, but take your time! You will be amazed with the difference it does make.

Nuts For Coconuts

I've recently been introduced to coconut oil and after using it just ONE time, I will never go back to regular lotion again. The benifits of using coconut oil are endless. Regular lotions are water based, so once it dries up, it no longer moisturizes. Oil continues the moisturize. And let's face it, with summer just around the corner, the last thing you want is dry, flaky skin. I've made my own concoction and mixed the coconut oil with a product called Miracle Oil and use that for my face. Then for my body, I mixed the oil with a nice essence (which you can find at whole foods around $13) to make it smell yummy. Read on for awesome ways to use coconut oil!

1. Acne Treatment

After using coconut oil for about a month, my skin is so clear! I may not have had horrible acne, but the bumps all over my face were defiantly noticeable. The oil pushes up the dirt to remove it from pours. And believe it or not, it can be used on dry AND oily skin!!

2. Prevents Stretch Marks

Any ladies that are preggers out there and are worried about the marks your bundle of joy will leave on your body? Worry no more! Rub some coconut oil on your tummy everyday and you'll be dying to show that baby bump off! 

3. Promotes Hair Growth

Want long mermaid hair? Coconut oil helps hair growth too! About twice a week, before I go to bed, I rub some coconut oil all over my locks. Then the next morning wash it out and see how soft you're hair gets. Not to mention shiny! Another tip, rub some oil on your eyelashes and watch them grow. 

4. Teeth Cleaning

If you are like me and hate the dentist, this is a great alternative. Not only will your mouth not be filled with fluoride (like at the dentists office) but you will have a fresh, clean feeling. This process is called oil pulling. Just swish the oil in your mouth for 20 minutes (EXACTLY 20 min) each morning. DO NOT swallow. The oil gets into your gums and around your teeth to pull out the germs and bacteria. It also leaves you with better breath and whiter teeth.

5. Split Ends

Us girls know all about this problem. No matter how many haircuts or trims we get, there is no escaping split ends! Until now! Try a hair mask with coconut oil for about 1-2 hours. Coconut oil is proven to reduce split ends. It is also can be used as a great de-frizzer! 

6. Anti-aging 

Coconut oil is a great night cream and helps you look younger over night. It also helps dark spots. Before you go to bed, dab a little under and around your eyes and see the difference in the morning.

7. Anxiety and Depression

Studies have shown the coconut oil actually helps anxiety and depression. Also boosts your energy! And who doesn't need more energy? 

It seems like coconut oil can be used for everything, and it just about can be. The benefits are endless. What's your favorite way to use coconut oil?